The Guide to Being a Bridesmaid
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"The Guide to Being a Bridesmaid"Being the Best Bridesmaid a Bride Could Ask for

Author: Jennifer - Internet Sales Coordinator & Team LeaderMay 2007

It happens all the time. A close friend asks you to be a part of her wedding. You say "yes," because you would love to be a part of her wedding but wonder after the fact what being a bridesmaid or a maid of honor involves. What are the responsibilities that come along with this title? Every bride has different expectations of what she wants out of her bridesmaids, but there are some common tasks that every bridesmaid and maid of honor should know about.

Being a bridesmaid and a maid of honor are slightly different in the fact that the maid of honor has all the tasks that the bridesmaids do, plus some additional jobs. Working at Invitation Consultants, we have talked and helped many bridesmaids who are planning showers, scouting for invitations and wedding favor ideas for brides.

Here are some key responsibilities that bridesmaids share:


Have a great attitude! Being a bridesmaid is a big responsibility, but can be incredibly fun if you approach it in the right way.
Buy the dress requested by the bride and have it altered. If certain shoes and jewelry is requested by the bride, buy this as well.
Provide moral support for the bride. Try to keep her stress level down throughout the planning process. Ask how her wedding progress is coming and offer to help in any way that you can.
Work with other bridesmaids and maid of honor to plan a bridal shower and/or bachelorette party. If you are looking for invitations and party favors, Invitation Consultants offers styles for all themes and budgets. Start by looking at our selection of bridal shower and bachelorette invitations online.
Plan and book any travel arrangements necessary. Check with the bride for pre-wedding events.
Attend all pre-wedding events possible.
Mingle with the other bridesmaids at pre-wedding events. By getting to know them, you will make the process more enjoyable.

The maid or matron of honor shares in the responsibilities listed above, but have a couple of additional duties that she should help with. First, at the bridal shower, the maid of honor should sit next to the bride as she is opening her gifts. She should keep a list of the gifts, along with the person who gave the gift. On the big day, she should help answer the questions of family members and make sure that everything is running smoothly. During the ceremony, she should stand beside the bride, hold her bouquet and the groom's ring and adjust her dress as necessary. Lastly, the maid/matron of honor makes a toast at both the rehearsal dinner and the reception.

Many small things will arise on the wedding day. Both bridesmaids and the maid of honor will want to work together to make sure that the bride is calm and organized. The most important thing about being a bridesmaid or a maid of honor is your attitude. Even if the bride doesn't need help, it is always nice to offer. Also, check in with her during her wedding planning process. By showing your interest, you are also showing your support. All brides need friendship and support, so offer these things to her whenever possible. Most importantly, enjoy the wedding and pre-wedding events as much as you can.