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"Traditional Wedding Etiquette"The Wedding Ceremony

Author: Jennifer - Internet Sales Coordinator & Team LeaderApril 2006

Planning your wedding ceremony is likely a job that will span many months, and draw on the ideas of friends and family. To plan any wedding ceremony, one must break it down into smaller tasks that need to be accomplished. When thinking about planning your wedding ceremony, it seems that there is so much to do that it becomes overwhelming. However, if you break the task down into a series of smaller tasks, planning the wedding ceremony does not seem so overpowering.

The first decision that you must make is the site of the ceremony. The reason behind this is that so many locations can be booked up years in advance. Traditionally, wedding sites would include a home, church, synagogue, or any other wedding facility. Many practical aspects will need to be assessed, such as parking, fees, availability, etc. Recently, more and more couples have turned to choosing an outdoor setting for their nuptials. There are positives and negatives to having an outdoor wedding. The biggest thing to consider is the weather. Wonderful weather can make the wedding, but bad weather can make things much more difficult. Another popular location to consider is a resort or spa. These luxury locations offer a beautiful setting for your wedding, and many offer lodging and entertainment for out-of-town guests. When making this decision, it is proper etiquette to consider the needs of your guests, while also choosing a location that suits you and your fiancée.

Also, soon after your engagement, the date and time of the ceremony will come into play. You will need this information when planning the location of the ceremony. When setting the date, it is proper etiquette to consider the schedules of your guests. Holiday weekends are nice because you and your guests have an extra day to travel, however, airfare and hotels can become much more expensive. You must also consider religious holidays for the fact that there may be restrictions on being married on these days, if you are planning on wedding in a place of worship. Also, you will want your guests to feel free to celebrate any religious holiday. Another aspect to consider is how the date may affect wedding costs. The thought of getting married around or on Valentine's Day is a romantic idea that many couples consider. However, if you are thinking of a Valentine wedding, you may want to check into the cost of flowers, especially if you want red roses, before you commit to this date. Weddings on New Year's Eve also may have higher costs associated with travel and lodging.

After you have the date and place, you can start making the fun decisions! You must decide who you want to stand beside you on your wedding day. There is no exact number of attendants that should be filled. The question that you need to ask yourself is to whom you feel the closest to. Ask the people that you want to stand beside you on your special day. It used to be customary for brides and grooms to match up the number of the bridesmaids and groomsmen. This tradition has changed in recent years. It is no longer necessary to have an even number. The most important thing is that you and your fiancée chose the amount of attendants that you feel comfortable with, and include everyone that you want to. After all, it is YOUR day. Generally, it is proper etiquette to ask your bridesmaids and groomsmen to participate in the wedding soon after the engagement is announced, but not before you and your fiancé have a chance to discuss how big you want the wedding party to be. If you feel that it is necessary to leave a friend or family member out for whatever reason, it is completely acceptable to explain that you are having a smaller wedding party, and that this in no way is intended to hurt their feelings.

Your wedding planning can be made easy, by taking it step by step. Once you establish the basics, such as the place, date and wedding party, the rest will come easily. If you find yourself feeling stressed, simply remember that planning your wedding can be one of the most fun and exciting things you have done. It will all be worth it when your big day is here!